Find Out What Your Spouse Love Language - Very Critical

Have you ever wondered why your partner felt you don't love her/him as much as you want her/him to feel?  No matter how much you show her/him, she/he still can't figure it out - that you love her/him damn so much?  Okay here's a clue... Love Language.. yes, there is such a thing called Love Language.. and you have to learn them - FAST!

Each of us has its own love language.. we might have gotten this from our parents, genes, or DNA.. (learn more from Dr. Gary Chapman of the "5 Love Languages") and our love language has to be nurtured and met by our spouse or partner in order for us to survive and thrive in a relationship and vice versa - meaning you have to nurture and meet your spouses' or partner's love language too.

Here are the 5 kinds of Love Languages we need to learn:

• Words of Affirmation
• Gifts (Receiving and Giving)
• Time (quality conversation and/or quality time)
• Physical Touch
• Acts of Service

 I know most of you have no idea of your own love language and worst, your spouse/partner's love language.  So here is the assessment that you can take in order for you to learn more about yourself and your partner at the same time 5 Love Language Test and once you're done with that, go back to this page so you will get more ideas on how to meet your spouse's love language.

You might ask how Dave and I meet our love language daily so that we will be able to nurture and meet each other's needs (our love language).

• Dave is a Word of Affirmations and Acts of Service kind of person.  He loves it when I affirms him,  acknowledges him in whatever he does for me and for our family.  Even if he does small things like washing the dishes, cooking for us, driving our car while we go somewhere, he likes it when I appreciates him by saying the words like "Thank you Love for washing the dishes for us..." or "You did a great job.." "Thanks for taking care of our family.." "Thank you for providing for our family.."... He wants to hear those acknowledging words from me.. and as his wife, knowing that this is his love language, I always make sure I say this every day.. I pour on his love tank the affirmations he needs so I can make him feel more loved.  Although sometimes, for us, it might seem like it's not a big deal, but for him and for people of Words of Affirmations, this is a big deal for them and when we do acknowledge and appreciate them, this is a very romantic points for them.. so there you go!
• Since Dave's second dominant love language is an Act of Service, I try to cook for him everytime he goes home, do our laundry, clean our house, drive for us, do some paperworks which he dislikes most, and other small things.  All these acts are great reminders for him that I love him.  For myself, since I am not an Act of Service kind of person, I choose to do this for him because that's how he felt more love.
• My Love Language are Gifts and Quality Time.  This is really important for me.  I feel more loved and cared for if Dave gives me his all attention and time.  I find it more romantic if he gives me gifts - material or not, whether it is expensive or not.  I don't care if it's from dollar store or not.  lol.  I long for his surprises every now and then.  That's how my love tank gets feed.  So can you see the difference between us?  Dave is not naturally a gift person.  He doesn't mind if he doesn't receive gifts.  For him, giving and receiving gifts is not a basis of love.  But for me, it is somehow a basis of love.  That's why he choose to give gifts so I will feel more special.
• As a Quality Time person, I need our own alone time once a week.  We have this weekly Tuesday Lovedates where we talk, spend each other's time alone, either cuddling, laughing, and sharing anything.  For me, I feel more loved when he spends more quality time with me.  Even in a party, and there's a lot of people which we like as well, but at the same time, I have this longing of after a busy day, I got to have atleast 30 minutes or more of alone time with him every day.  That is my love language.

I don't know about you and your partner but you got to figure it out - fast!  So you can meet each other's needs... love language.  You might be speaking a different language to your spouse right now that needs to be fixed right away.  Don't worry!  It's not too late.  It's time to reevaluate your marriage and/or relationship.

Again, go figure out your own and your spouse love language by taking the test now!

Reenact a Favorite Romantic Date - Your First Few Dates Perhaps

I got this idea from a book "Loving the Love of Your Life" to re-create a favorite romantic date we had..

Remember how we got so excited going out for a date with our spouse-now (girlfriend/boyfriend before) or partner during the first few dates with them.. I know.. it felt so different.. we really made our best impressions.. for us, ladies, we dressed up a few times just to see which ones fit perfectly for us.. sometimes we don't know what to wear.. what to do.. and now.. few years later what happened???  That's why.. having to reenact a favorite romantic date we had with our spouse/partner would be a perfect romantic date this week for you and me <3

Well.. my husband Dave and I did our reenactment 2 weeks ago.. we went to our first romantic dinner place we went to in February 2008.. it was at Cactus Club Cafe, 2612 39 Avenue Northeast,Calgary (403) 250-1120 ..yes, and it's been a while since we had dinner there.. we reminisced our pasts.. how we felt the very beginning.. and it felt so amazing... knowing how and why we fell in love with each other at the first place.. I know it sounds cheesy.. but hey it's worth it;) this has actually improved our marriage life.. and there's a  plus on this one.. he gave me a surprise gift with it ;) my new swimsuit for this summer - a sexy bra and a sporty short.. thanks my Love ;)

I know you're eager to do the same for your spouse/partner.. so why not try to re-create and reenact a favorite romantic date with your spouse this week?  I am so sure, she/he will definitely love it!  Have fun doing it!

ROMANTIC TIPS (from the book "Loving the Love of Your Life"): 

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• Go to the very same restaurant, shop, or park you went to so long ago
• Rent the same movie you watched together (ours is the movie "Jumper")
• At some point in the evening, tell him why that night meant so much to you and how proud you are of how far the two of you have com.
• Find a photo of the two of you early on in your relationship (just like the one right here...) and insert it in his/her book (or wallet) with a note that says, "Remember this? and leave it for him to find.

Great Romantic Dinner at Famoso Restaurant in Calgary, Alberta

It's been a while since the last time I wrote here.  I've been busy with the preparation for our parent's 25th (Silver) Wedding Anniversary for July 18, 2010 in Philippines.  We're very excited for that.

Another great romantic dinner ideas I would suggest is going to Famoso Restaurant (403-455-3839) in 4 Street Calgary, Alberta.  They're located in #105 2303 4 Street SW... it's only a walking distance from our 1 Br Apartment on 18 Ave and 4 St SW..  We love the atmosphere of the place.  It's actually a unique setting - half service - you order on the till/counter first what you want and after that a server/waiter/waitress will serve you after.. which is pretty cool.  The place is casual and/or semi-formal and the food are fantastic.  We love going there.

Our first date with just the two of us, my husband Dave and myself, we ordered the SICILIANA
(fresh mozzarella, fresh basil, Italian sausage, Italian ham and baked prosciutto)..it's so good.. and their dessert the AUTHENTIC TIRAMISU (mascarpone cream on a sponge cake base, drenched with espresso, and topped with waves of mascarpone and dusted with cocoa and is imported from Milan, Italy).  Oh it's the best!  You got to taste them!  We also tried their VANILLA ICED LATTE and CARAMEL ICED LATTE.  It's pretty good too.

We love it so much we end up bringing our families and friends there the next few weeks after our romantic date.  One time the manager actually gave us a free dessert which we're so thankful for.  So far, what we've tried after our 1st date in Famoso were the following: 

• SAN ANDREAS Top Chef Ryan Warden (extra virgin olive oil, garlic, and oregano base, fresh mozzarella, roasted chicken in a chilli lime marinade, and we chose to top with fresh avocado) 
• SWEET BBQ CHICKEN (honey smoked BBQ sauce, fresh mozzarella, roasted chicken, sprinkle of smoked mozza. Baked, then topped with chopped tomatoes, red onion and cilantro)
• PEPPERONI AND ROASTED MUSHROOMS (campania tomato sauce, fresh mozzarella, pepperoni and mushroom)
• SPICY THAI (spicy peanut sauce, roasted chicken, fresh mozzarella, and smoked mozza. Baked, then topped with matchstick carrots, bean sprouts, cilantro and crushed peanuts)
• CHEESE PIZZA for the kids
• VESUVIO (fresh mozzarella, fresh basil, cracked red pepper and spicy sopressata (spicy Italian salami)
• FIOR-DI-LATTE ANTIPASTI PLATTER (traditional Neapolitan plate featuring fresh Fior di latte mozzarella, thinly-sliced prosciutto, crisp arugula, and reggiano parmesan. Seasoned with sea salt and extra virgin olive oil. Paired with fresh flatbread)

• MASCARPONE N’ BERRIES WITH SUGARED DOUGH Top Chef Michael Hunka (sweet Italian mascarpone cream with a hint of vanilla and lemon paired with a wildberry compote. Served with fluffy oven-baked dough dusted with icing sugar)

• NUTELLA PIZZA (our authentic pizza crust smothered in Nutella hazelnut / chocolate spread, folded into a calzone then cut into thin strips)

The price of Famoso's pizza and it's food are reasonable and cheaper compare to other restaurants.  The food are excellent.  And my personal favorites are the Famoso's Sweet Bbq Chicken, Siciliana, Authentic Tiramisu, and their Nutella Pizza.  We're still looking forward to taste some more.  Lol.


Especially this coming up Lilac Festival in Calgary, May 30, 2010, why don't you bring your spouse and/or kids and/or the whole family to Famoso Restaurant.  For sure, you guys will love it there just as much we do.  Enjoy!

They also have other locations in Albera:

Edmonton - Downtown (780-732-0700) 11750 Jasper Avenue NW

Edmonton - South Common (780-468-0000) 1437 99 Street

Edmonton - Magrath (780-436-8799) 14123 23 Avenue

Edmonton - Christy's Corner (780-732-0222) 13655 St. Albert Trail

P.S.
Let me know what other great foods they have that you'd like to recommend to us.  Thanks.

Marriage Life - Have a Picnic Romance in Auburn Bay Lake Calgary, AB

You know what I love about our marriage?! We just decided one afternoon to go to Auburn Bay Lake in Calgary, Alberta and said, "why don't we go to the lake/park and bring some food, blankets, and read some books.. spend our afternoon there, enjoy the sun, and snooze... sleep... lol.."  and we did...

No planning.. no packing a lot of stuff..  just follow our instincts.. and have fun!  What do they say a lot? Have a kid-like spirit and enjoy your alone time with your spouse! It's so important to have an alone time with your soul-partner!

Whether you have kids or not.. do it anyway.. BRING YOUR SPOUSE.. with or without kids.. to the park/lake..  it will be MORE ROMANTIC if it's just the two of you.. ASK someone to babysit your kids for a couple of hours... so you can both relax.. reflect.. and appreciate your marriage life.. ;) you'll see your spouse even more beautiful than before.. trust me.. it works!!

We played some tennis, slept, enjoyed the sun, and read a book to each other.. sweet;) hehe.. thanks..

Anyways, what are you waiting for?  Go for a romantic picnic date at the park/lake near your house.. or maybe you both can have a drive around the province for a change! Enjoy your romance!