Find Out What Your Spouse Love Language - Very Critical

Have you ever wondered why your partner felt you don't love her/him as much as you want her/him to feel?  No matter how much you show her/him, she/he still can't figure it out - that you love her/him damn so much?  Okay here's a clue... Love Language.. yes, there is such a thing called Love Language.. and you have to learn them - FAST!

Each of us has its own love language.. we might have gotten this from our parents, genes, or DNA.. (learn more from Dr. Gary Chapman of the "5 Love Languages") and our love language has to be nurtured and met by our spouse or partner in order for us to survive and thrive in a relationship and vice versa - meaning you have to nurture and meet your spouses' or partner's love language too.

Here are the 5 kinds of Love Languages we need to learn:

• Words of Affirmation
• Gifts (Receiving and Giving)
• Time (quality conversation and/or quality time)
• Physical Touch
• Acts of Service

 I know most of you have no idea of your own love language and worst, your spouse/partner's love language.  So here is the assessment that you can take in order for you to learn more about yourself and your partner at the same time 5 Love Language Test and once you're done with that, go back to this page so you will get more ideas on how to meet your spouse's love language.

You might ask how Dave and I meet our love language daily so that we will be able to nurture and meet each other's needs (our love language).

• Dave is a Word of Affirmations and Acts of Service kind of person.  He loves it when I affirms him,  acknowledges him in whatever he does for me and for our family.  Even if he does small things like washing the dishes, cooking for us, driving our car while we go somewhere, he likes it when I appreciates him by saying the words like "Thank you Love for washing the dishes for us..." or "You did a great job.." "Thanks for taking care of our family.." "Thank you for providing for our family.."... He wants to hear those acknowledging words from me.. and as his wife, knowing that this is his love language, I always make sure I say this every day.. I pour on his love tank the affirmations he needs so I can make him feel more loved.  Although sometimes, for us, it might seem like it's not a big deal, but for him and for people of Words of Affirmations, this is a big deal for them and when we do acknowledge and appreciate them, this is a very romantic points for them.. so there you go!
• Since Dave's second dominant love language is an Act of Service, I try to cook for him everytime he goes home, do our laundry, clean our house, drive for us, do some paperworks which he dislikes most, and other small things.  All these acts are great reminders for him that I love him.  For myself, since I am not an Act of Service kind of person, I choose to do this for him because that's how he felt more love.
• My Love Language are Gifts and Quality Time.  This is really important for me.  I feel more loved and cared for if Dave gives me his all attention and time.  I find it more romantic if he gives me gifts - material or not, whether it is expensive or not.  I don't care if it's from dollar store or not.  lol.  I long for his surprises every now and then.  That's how my love tank gets feed.  So can you see the difference between us?  Dave is not naturally a gift person.  He doesn't mind if he doesn't receive gifts.  For him, giving and receiving gifts is not a basis of love.  But for me, it is somehow a basis of love.  That's why he choose to give gifts so I will feel more special.
• As a Quality Time person, I need our own alone time once a week.  We have this weekly Tuesday Lovedates where we talk, spend each other's time alone, either cuddling, laughing, and sharing anything.  For me, I feel more loved when he spends more quality time with me.  Even in a party, and there's a lot of people which we like as well, but at the same time, I have this longing of after a busy day, I got to have atleast 30 minutes or more of alone time with him every day.  That is my love language.

I don't know about you and your partner but you got to figure it out - fast!  So you can meet each other's needs... love language.  You might be speaking a different language to your spouse right now that needs to be fixed right away.  Don't worry!  It's not too late.  It's time to reevaluate your marriage and/or relationship.

Again, go figure out your own and your spouse love language by taking the test now!

Having Starbucks Coffee dates with Your Spouse can be Romantic too

Yes a simple walk to Starbucks Coffee near your neighborhood, downtown 2219 - 4th Street SW Calgary, AB, or a drive by to a mall just like in our photos (it's at Southcentre Mall) can be a romantic idea for you and your spouse...

Read a book while sipping that White Chocolate Mocca Frappuccino and Vivieno Starbucks.. it's relaxing... and it's fun ;) Do this once in a while...  although watch the sugar content on it from time to time.  lol

Enjoy your Saturday afternoon with Starbucks coffee ... oh love it!

Enjoy reading, learning and growing in your marriage life at the same time!

Anything can be Romantic, remember that!

Bring Her a Bouquet of Flowers

This is what I love about my spouse.  He's not the kind of guy who loves to give gifts but he is very coachable and always listen when I say something that I love about.

I love romantic things and one of those I love are flowers.  Although my mom used to tell me all the time that flowers seems useless because they just wither right away.  But I don't know.  I just love flowers and it makes me feel more loved and cared for.

So girls and boys, if you love something, tell your spouse - just like what I did.  I verbally and literrally told my spouse, "I love to receive flowers all the time, once a week or once a month..."  and lucky me, he'll just smile or laugh with me or sometimes tell me, he will give me some flowers some time.  Although I wanted him to buy me those flowers right there at that moment and bring those beautiful flowers home.

Dave is amazing.  One afternoon, he usually goes home around 5:30pm and I got worried when he's not home around 6pm.  So when I called Dave one time where he is, he said that he just went for a gas or some excuse.  And when he got home about 6pm or 6:15pm, I was surprised when I opened our door seeing him with a bouquet of flowers in his hands - usually a bouquet of roses or a bouquet of lilies - Oh I love them.  He's so cute.

Thanks Love.  I just wanna share this romantic idea to all the married couples in Calgary or to all the people who love romance and/or who wants more romance in their relationship.

So have fun surprising your spouse with our romantic ideas.  Go get her/him some flowers! 

P.S. In Calgary area, my husband usually buys those bouquet of flowers in Safeway Mission area at 524 Elbow Dr SW 403-228-6141.  Actually any Safeway Superstore locations have flowers department and you can just drop by and surprise your spouse.